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Fall Down 7 Times, Get Up 8

Fall Down 7 Times, Get Up 8
Teaching Kids to Succeed

  • Debbie Silver - Education Consultant, Keynote Speaker, and Author,

Foreword by Carol Ann Tomlinson

© 2012 | 240 pages | Corwin

Published in Association with Association for Middle Level Education

A fresh approach to getting kids to work smarter and better, not just harder

As teachers and parents, our job is to teach students to tackle challenges rather than avoid them. Award-winning teacher and best-selling author Debbie Silver addresses the relationship between student motivation and risking failure, calling failure a temporary "glitch" that provides valuable learning opportunities. She explains motivational theory, provides down-to-earth—often humorous—real life examples, and outlines concrete, applicable guidelines for helping students overcome setbacks and failure to foster lifelong success. Key topics include:

  • How to help students become autonomous, enthusiastic, lifelong learners
  • Why failure is not only an option, but a very concrete way of gaining ground
  • The difference between a "pep talk" and specific, relevant feedback that enhances self-efficacy

This reader-friendly guide's examples of dialogue and vignettes demonstrate what to say when giving feedback to students. Also included is a discussion guide for teacher leaders. Teachers, parents, and other student advocates will find helpful strategies for helping students learn to solve problems, take risks, and pursue success with confidence.

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Foreword by Carol Ann Tomlinson
About the Author
1. Self-Motivation - What Is It, and How Do We Use It to Empower Children?
Albert Bandura and Self-Efficacy  
Motivation or Self-Motivation?  
Try This  
TUH-tuh-tuh-DAH! for Kids  
Amy Chua, Author of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother  
Adults Need to Work in Tandem With Children's Motivation  
Entitlement or Empowerment?  
Sample Adult Statements  
2. Zone of Proximal Development (ZPD)
Mastery Learning Experience  
Lev Vygotsky and "Zone of Proximal Development"  
3. Self-Regulation, Deliberate Practice, and Failure
Instant Gratification and Its Implications  
Adults Modeling Self-Regulation  
Ericsson's Deliberate Practice  
Expertise and the Ten-Year Rule  
Failure? There's an "App" for That  
My Skating Rink Story  
Helping Kids Deal With Failure  
Adults Modeling Recovery Practices  
4. Attribution Theory - Why Did I Succeed (or not)?
More on A Simplified Version of Attribution Theory  
Learned Helplessness  
Effective Feedback  
The Littering Experiment  
Rosenthal's Self-Fulfilling Prophecy  
5. Mindset - The Key to Self-Motivation
Fixed Mindset/Growth Mindset  
Taking the Joy From the Artist  
Gifted Kids and Coping With Failure  
Fostering a Growth Mindset in Children  
Feedback That Changes Perspectives  
6. What Do I Get for Doing It? (Examining Rewards)
My Parents and Rewards  
My Love Affair With Rewards  
My Aha Moment With Rewards  
My Reward Fiasco  
Varying Degrees of Rewards  
Paul Chance, The Voice of Reason  
Praise As a Reward  
No More Stars, Stickers, or Trophies? Really?  
Motivating Kids to Do Unexciting Tasks  
Rewards as Affirmations  
7. Autonomy, Time, and Flow
Optimal Learning Environment and Flow  
8. Helping Students Stay Motivated as They Get Older
Helping Older Children Cope With Failure  
9. Inspiring Young Children
Wiped Out  
Be Careful About Indirect Communication  
Helping Kids Who Are Afraid  
10. FAQs About Teaching Students to Be Successful
The Story of a Phoenix  
Discussion Guide

“This is the best book on success factors related to learning that I have read. Debbie Silver does a masterful job of weaving theory, practice, research, popular literature, applications, and personal experiences together to provide readers with a multi-faceted presentation on each success factor.”

Karen L. Tichy, Associate Superintendent
Archdiocese of St. Louis, MO

“A truly fresh take on getting more from our kids! Read this book if you want to work smarter instead of harder and to bring enthusiasm back to your classroom or school.”

Scott Bailey, Principal
Waskom Middle School, TX

"This book is a wonderful and dynamic weaving of ageless wisdom, personal experience, and research-based knowledge of the art and science of effective teaching. Her writing is accessible, engaging, personal, and thought provoking, just as good teaching should be. Read this book!"

Chris Toy, Senior Partner
Learning Capacity Unlimited, Bath, ME

"This is a 'must read' book for anyone desiring to help young people become confident, self-directed learners. Readers will walk away not only challenged in their thinking, but with a multitude of strategies that help students develop the internal motivation so necessary for success in today’s world."

Patti Kinney, Associate Director
NASSP, Reston, VA

"The joy and energy that Debbie Silver brings to her amazing presentations shine on each page of this book. Every teacher will appreciate Silver’s enthusiasm and positive outlook. Use this book to infect your students with a love for learning!"

Dr. Danny Brassell, Author, Speaker & Founder
Key features
  • This book gives examples of the difference between nebulous, effusive "self-esteem" pep talks, and specific, relevant feedback that enhances self-efficacy.
  • It uses a "broad brush" approach to discuss various theories of motivation and their evolution into current thought.
  • It gets very specific on the topics of what to say and why to say it that way (as well as what not to say, and why not to say it).
  • It is more or less a handbook about how to help learners become independent, persistent visionaries rather than dependent, helpless victims.
  • Silver provides specific examples of dialogue and vignettes to help teachers and parents realize the importance of word choices when giving feedback.
  • Readers find strategies they can use immediately as well as ideas they can contemplate for quite some time.
  • The book also includes a glossary, a bibliography, chapter summaries, and a discussion guide for teacher leaders.

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ISBN: 9781412998772